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Occasionally watch Channel 8's series 天堂鸟。 One of the story reminded me of something..

The guy has a big talent in music composition. After a series of hard work, he had a chance to present his demo to the well-known artist. However, over the phone he found that his girlfriend fainted and admitted to a hospital with unknown reason, he gave up his one and only chance to present his demo. He rushed to the hospital... To me, what he has done is because he cares a lot on his gf, nothing wrong with it. However, once his girlfriend found that he gave up his chance, she qurrelled with him and eventually broke up with him. Her reason, "you dont love yourself, how can you love others?" In that series, the couple patched up and got married. The guy could not succeed in his career and start drinking. In the end, they always quarrel and the guy met with an accident and lost his memory.

Yes, words with similar meaning had come to me. Perhaps its true, perhaps its just our own opinions. Look at the parents, they gave everything best to their children and did not treat themselves good. Do u say they r not good parents at all? Some people must love themselves before they are willing to love other people. There are always some other people would like to love other people, taking care of other people rather than taking care & love himself. There is always said, 被爱是幸福的。 Some people could not take the overwhelming of love. Some people just wish to have it. Whoever gets it or not, just hope that you cherish the moments, cherish the one you love / being loved.

I always say that relationship management requires mutual effort, not one. However, it doesnt mean that the effort must be shared 50/ 50 on each other. Some are willing to put in more effor than the other. Some need to love themselves before start to love others. All in all, both of them must put in effort to manage their relationship.

"If a couple started relationship on long distance, they can maintain the relationship easier. Their relationship grows because they put in effort to bring them closer and closer."
"If a couple started relationship together, and fall apart for studies/career, the relationship is going to ruin. They start feeling that they can live without the other one, they couldn't live as close as before. Even though they try to bring themselves closer and closer, they still feel far apart."

Perhaps no one cannot live without anyone. But the feeling tweaks with different starting scenario, dont u find amusing? They may love each other, but the situation makes them feel no big deal of falling apart. Perhaps they even feel it is meaningless to be together.

There is always someone said,"要在对的时间碰见对的人“.