不要错放了幸福温暖的手

往往许多人在抉择伴侣时，容易东想西想，不知所措，就是因为害怕一时做错决定，看错人，造成终生的遗憾。诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说：“此时此刻在地球上，约有两万个人适合当你的人生伴侣，就看你先遇到哪一个，如果在第二个理想伴侣出现之前，你已经跟前一个人发展出相知相惜、互相信赖的深层关系，那后者就会变成你的好朋友，但是若你跟前一个人没有培养出深层关系，感情就容易动摇、变心，直到你与这些理想伴侣候选人的其中一位拥有稳固的深情，才是幸福的开始，漂泊的结束。

爱上一个人不需要靠努力，只需要靠“际遇”，是上天的安排，但是“持续地爱一个人”就要靠“努力”，在爱情的经营中，顺畅运转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容与自制 (面临诱惑有所自制)。有许多人总是?“际遇”所迷惑与苦恼，意念不停、欲念不断、争逐不散，而忘了培养经营感情的能力才是幸福的关键。

所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的Mr.Right，而是n问说在眼前的伴侣关系中，我能努力到什么程度、成长到什么程度，若没有培养出经营幸福的能力，就算真的Mr.Right出现在你身边，幸福依然会错过的，而活在犹疑与遗憾当中，这不就是许多“爱情虚无症”的遭遇与心态吗？

若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣，不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了，我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱，就是“近亲生慢侮”，也就是经济学中的铁律“边际效益递减法则”，跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木与忽视，而新鲜的“际遇”总是那么动人可爱。

在感情对待中，难免有摩擦与无心的伤害，而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人，当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人。而新欢呢，又还没开始有得罪你的机会，再加上他的刻意讨好，所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱，旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。但别忘了，新欢身上总是有不确定的未知数，旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的“际遇”中迷失了自己，错放了幸福温暖的手。

所以萧伯纳的话，是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一，应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上，同时也提醒我们“弱水三千只取一瓢饮”若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣，就不要再三心二意了，因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个，所以要知福惜福、活在当下。

Girl, 8, snatched and raped

2009/10/23

By Mazlinda Mahmood

KLANG, Fri: An 8-year-old girl on her way to a grocery store was lured with RM5 before she was grabbed and raped by a man on a motorbike on last night in Sungai Pinang near here.

The girl was walking to the grocery store near her home with her 7-year-old cousin when the man, wearing a helmet, stopped his motorcycle by the roadside and offered the victim RM5 to follow him.

It is understood that when the girl tried to take the money, the man grabbed her and fled, leaving behind her cousin, who then told the victim's parents what had happened.

District police chief Assistant Commissioner Mohamad Mat Yusop when contacted confirmed the incident.

He said the girl was found in Meru, about five kilometres from the place where she was taken at 10.30pm, by a policeman who lived in the area.

"We received a call from the victim's father about 9pm and alerted the police in the area about the missing girl.

"She was found walking in the area in a confused state and was then taken to the Meru police station where she was reunited with her family," he said.

Mohamad said the victim could not remember what had happened after she was taken by the suspect and only remembered waking up in a parked van with the suspect about an hour later.

"At first, we thought it was just a kidnap case but at the police station, the victim complained of pain in her private part when she went to the toilet.

"This morning, she was sent to the Tengku Ampuan Rahimah Hospital (HTAR) and it was found that there were signs she had been raped," he said.

Mohamad said the victim was unable to describe the suspect as she was still traumatised and could only say that the victim was either a Malay or a Bangladeshi.

"The victim is still receiving treatment at HTAR. Unlike adults, children cannot immediately describe what happened. We must give them time," he said.

Mohamad said the victim's father had lodged another report after the medical check-up and the case would be investigated for kidnapping and rape.

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你是左左, 左右，右左還是右右？

你是左右，還是右左？

1.像祈禱一般,將雙手交握起來... 看看你的雙手!!!
左手拇指被押在右手拇指下的----------------------> 左腦使用者
右手拇指被押在左手拇指下的----------------------> 右腦使用者

2.將你的雙手交叉環在胸前(請揣摩一下'我生氣了喔=)的感覺)
右手臂壓住左手臂的------------------------------> 左腦使用者
左手臂壓住右手臂的------------------------------> 右腦使用者

從1+2來看你的結果* (要照1→2順序看唷~)

分析結果：

左右人
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喜歡照顧人，領導型
具有冷靜的觀察力能看透對方或現場的氣氛，但亦具有能體貼入微照顧對方的一面，這就是 兼具冷靜與溫情的左右人。因生性冷靜，頗具男子氣概且責任感強烈，像個〔大姐頭〕般常會受到同性的愛慕。能自然聚集人群並與之俐落相處。只不過，有時也會忍不住太愛照顧他人。相當在意世人如何看待自己，總是保持警覺心。

右左人
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善於體貼他人的傳統，溫婉類型
能直覺了解對方的心情，並自然和善對應的右左人。雖然無法主動積極的向前，但卻會後退 一步來支持他人，生性穩重且貼心，給人一股(凡事都會好好照顧＊)的安心感。不過一旦 被拜託過一次,往後就很難再對他人說〔NO〕就是最大的缺點。不管自己有多麼的痛苦，也會為他人鞠躬盡瘁....這種熱情堪稱天下第一！

右右人
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最愛自己的挑戰類型
生性勇往直前,一旦認定〔就是這個！〕時就會馬上採取行動！這就是好奇心旺盛最愛挑戰 的右右人。憑著一股氣勢就能夠坦然挑戰危險事物的魯莽一族。但另一方面亦具有被抓住 弱點時就很容易被打動的鮮細脆弱一面...。基本上,不聽他人的話,會跳著聽談話的內容, 也很容易就以主觀意識說話。不過也因這般充滿個性的緣故而備受眾人喜愛,往往能成為人氣者唷！

左左人
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認真又冷酷的完美主義者
雖頗有女人(男人)味，但卻是在這四種類型中最具有男子氣概！凡事都能條理分明的理論性思考，會憑著一篇大道理迅速打敗他，可說相當具有〔鋼鐵之女〕的感覺。自尊心極高,正義感也 比他人多上一倍。做為朋友是很值得信賴,但若與之為敵就會很棘手的類型。只不過,因生 性認真又是完美主義者，常會讓初次見面的人留下〔難以相處〕的不好印象。

Food for thought (2)

需要的不多，想要得太多。

Food for thought

山不转路转；
路不转人转；
人不转心转。

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